10 New Year’s Resolutions For Narcissistic Abuse Survivors

The New Year represents renewal, new beginnings, and a clean slate. It rests in our hands like a blank book. What will you write for the next chapter of your life?

If 2016 has painfully reminded us of anything, it’s that life is short. Tomorrow is never promised. Every day is precious. Much too precious and valuable to be spent disconnected from yourself, walking on eggshells, living for others, and settling for a life less than the one you deserve.

Happy New Year my friends. Hope your 2017 brings you many blessings, peace, and freedom.

Cheers,  Bree

Bonchay is a Los Angeles based psychotherapist who specializes in helping people heal from break-ups, recover from toxic relationships with narcissists and sociopaths and to never settle for a life less than the one they dreamed of. She is a Blogger, Advocate, Facebook Toxic Relationship Recovery Forum Administrator, Radio Guest Expert, and is the Author of the book, I Am Free.

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What You Need To Know About Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, recovery is a slow, frustrating and tedious process. The frequent complaints of pain and emotional distress are often dismissed by loved ones and even mental health professionals as malingering and a lack of desire to heal and get better.  However, recent trauma research indicates that these complaints are the direct result of the real physiological damage done to survivors while they were exposed to the prolonged emotional and psychological trauma of an abusive relationship.

A Simple Remedy For Feeling Better After Narcissistic Abuse

If you’re struggling to heal from and move on after narcissistic abuse, you’re probably frustrated that it’s taking so long. Healing from narcissistic abuse is so much more complicated than healing from a regular break up. This is why the typical breakup advice and tips not only don’t work but often times leave you feeling even worse off and wondering if something is wrong with you? The popular breakup wisdom that advises you that you will feel better if you find a new hobby and change up your hairstyle doesn’t help you to get over it any faster. The common remedies for a broken heart fall short because they don’t address the broken spirit, mind-bending confusion, cognitive dissonance, unanswered questions, lack of closure and the callous post-discard behavior characteristic of break ups with narcissists.

The Hashtag, #IfMyWoundsWereVisible, Is Raising Awareness About Narcissistic Abuse

 

 

June 1st is Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day. Let’s raise awareness by using the hashtag ‪#‎IfMyWoundsWereVisible‬ on all social media.

Get involved in this campaign to raise awareness by logging into your Twitter account and send out a tweet using the hashtag #IfMyWoundsWereVisible and complete the sentence.

#narcissistic abuse survivors share their experiences at #IfMyWoundsWereVisible June 1st narc abuse awareness day. pic.twitter.com/Km0Ll9qLSL

— Bree Bonchay (@BreeBonchay) May 30, 2016

Let’s try to raise public awareness about this very covert and insidious form of abuse and also reach people with who may not be believed and let them know we believe them, we get it, and there is support and hope for happiness and freedom after narcissistic abuse. You can also click on the Twitter hashtag to read what other people have tweeted.

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A Subtle Warning Sign of A Toxic Person

The Department of Homeland Security has a color-coded terrorism alert system. Red, the highest level, means a severe risk of terrorist attacks. The lowest level, green, means low risk of terrorist attacks. Between those are Blue (guarded risk), yellow (significant) and then there is orange (high). There is a lesser known and very subtle early warning sign you may be dating a toxic person that you never hear about. It’s not quite the level of a red alert, but it is definitely in the orange to the red range and it should put you on high alert that you are in danger of being at the very least, emotionally abused, by a toxic person, narcissist or sociopath. It’s a tactic called Subtle Ignoring. It is generally a precursor to full-blown narcissistic abuse.

Is It Worth Trying to Save The New Target?

Following up on the previous blog article, “If Your Ex Moved On, Gladly Pass The Baton”, the question was raised: If you received a warning message from your boyfriend’s ex, during the honeymoon or idealization phase, would you even listen?